#8: Escape Negative Thoughts, Stoic Social Skills, and the Art of Leadership
Plus recommended resources and off-the-beaten-path links
🏹 Stoic Wisdom Arrows
🌪️ How to Escape Negative Thoughts: What does one do when one can’t stop the incessant compulsion to ruminate and overthink? Here’s my answer.
🍃 The Art of Leadership and Self-Reflection: Tune into my conversation with Justin Noppé on what it means to lead with wisdom. Listen here.
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🧰 Stoic Toolbox: The 3 Levels of Wise Interpretation
The Ignorant Person: Blames others and the world for their misery.
Stoic-in-Training: Blames oneself for his misery.
The Wise Person: Never needs to blame themselves or others for his misery but examines and corrects their initial judgment.
Read the full article here.
✅ Technique Try Out: Anti-Approval Seeking
In the book Not Nice, Dr. Aziz provides 15 examples of approval seeking. When you seek approval from others too much, he writes:
Here is the list:
Difficulty with Endings
Fear of Judgment
Fear of Upset
Pressure to Entertain
Second Guessing & Conversational Replays
Submissive Body Language
Putting Others First
Not Stating Desires
Attempting to Fit In & Impress
Dr. Aziz recommends you locate the one you do the most, and then whenever you are in that situation repeat the mantra:
“I don’t need your approval.”
Give it a try this week, and keep the mantra ready at hand.
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🥾 Off the Beaten Path
Here are a collection of things I’m currently finding interesting and worthy of sharing here. They are not limited to Stoic philosophy.
🎼 What I’m listening to:
Artist: The Young Boy King:
A lot of layered meaning in the lyrics, and beautiful melodies, and created by a really talented and creative mind.
📚What I’m Reading
The Three Alarms by Eric Partaker
Really enjoying this book. Written by a self-confessed workaholic who had a heart attack and nearly died, then started deeply investigating how he was living. This book is the result of his search.
📱 App I’m Using
I am not a big fan of aiming “streaks” when it comes to habit tracking. Instead, I like to use habit trackers as memory devices that give me an overall picture of my lifestyle. This app uses a gorgeous grid layout to help you visualize your habits from a zoomed-out perspective.
🤝 Friend of Wisdom
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